🚩How to protect your child from “red flag” situations


Hello Reader,

My question for you today is would your job be easier if you had a quick & easy Body Safety Toolkit? Would your child be safer if they knew the 3 red flags of child sexual abuse?

I think so!

Let me tell you about Vivian.

Vivian was only 3 years old when her 14 year old cousin started sexually abusing her while he was babysitting. This precious little girl tried to tell her mom—but without the right vocabulary, her mom just brushed it off. Partly because she had complete trust in her nephew who’d been so nice to their family and was helping while she visited another child in the hospital.

The sad truth is that had Vivian been better prepared, she could have alerted her mom right away to the problem. Instead it went on for months.

Unfortunately, Vivian’s story is not unique.

Consider these “what if” scenarios that happen to kids everyday.

What if:

  • Your child’s coach made a joke about private parts?
  • Their cousin wanted to play a “secret game?
  • Their friend’s older brother pulled up a shocking video?

Would your child know:

  • What to think?
  • What to say?
  • What to do?

1 in 10 children will be sexually abused before their 18th birthday—And most of the time, it’s not a stranger. IT’S. SOMEONE. THEY. KNOW.

The risk is real. And without preparation, kids are vulnerable.

Far too often, kids freeze—confused and unsure. They don’t know how to respond, or who to tell.
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And frequently—they don’t tell at all.

That’s why we created the Body Safety Toolkit: How to Protect Kids from Sexual Abuse—a 5-page digital guide to help your child recognize red flags and build a safety plan before danger ever appears.

This toolkit will help your child:

✔️ Learn the correct names for private body parts—so they can clearly tell you if something is wrong.
✔️ Understand the difference between appropriate and inappropriate touch.
✔️ Recognize Red Flag situations—with simple “Think. Say. Do.” scripts for each one.
✔️ Create a personalized Body Safety Plan (including safe adults and a secret code word).
✔️ Know what to do if someone shows them pornography—even another child.

🚩 Real-life “what if” scenarios help you practice:

  • What if someone asks for a nude photo online?
  • What if an adult jokes with them about private parts?
  • What if a cousin offers gifts in exchange for a secret game?

❤️ Parents love how the Body Safety Toolkit simplifies tough topics, making the conversation easier and less awkward—for both of you.

Here’s what makes this resource such a smart first step:

➡️ Just $4.97 (less than a Happy Meal)

➡️Downloadable PDF. Print it. Read it. Start talking today

➡️ Only 5 pages long—quick to read, easy to use

Every child deserves to be prepared with a defense against sexual abuse. Give them the words, plan, and courage to speak up.

You’ll never regret it.

Kindly,

Kristen

P.S. You never know when a red flag moment might happen. Give your child the confidence to respond—before they need it.

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