🚨What to do when your child sees p*rn


Hello Reader,

Karolyn’s heart raced and her stomach dropped.

There it was—pornography in her child’s browsing history. Shock, fear, and shame overwhelmed her. And she was paralyzed with one baffling question:

“What do I do next?”

If this moment were to happen to you, would you be ready?

Because sadly, it’s not a matter of if, but when. Whether through a school-issued device, a friend’s phone, an innocent Google search, or an unexpected ad, your child will see pornography.

And when they do, your response can make all the difference.

  • Will your child feel safe coming to you?
  • Will they be too scared to tell you?
  • Will they turn to shame—or to you for help?

How you respond matters

That’s why we created My Kid Saw Porn, Now What? A SMART Plan for Parents—an 81-page guide packed with expert advice and proven strategies to help you:

✔️Respond in a way that builds trust—instead of creating shame or secrecy.

✔️Heal and repair your relationship—even if your first reaction was less than calm.

✔️Understand why good kids get pulled into porn—and how to help them break free.

✔️Know exactly what to say—so your child feels safe talking to you.

✔️Support a child who doesn’t want help—without pushing them away.

For just $7.97, you’ll find strategies to porn-proof your child including making a SMART plan with tips for keeping your cool. And because it’s a digital guide, you can download it instantly and start preparing right away.

Inside this guide you'll discover

đź’ˇReal life lessons from 10 parents who have been in your shoes. They answer questions like:

  • What resources were most valuable to you and your child during the recovery process?
  • What helped strengthen your relationship with your child throughout this journey?

🚨6 common mistakes parents make and how you can avoid them.

❤️‍🩹A 5-step plan to repair your relationship if you reacted with anger or shame.

🧠A prevention formula: 5 effective steps to help children avoid risky behaviors like pornography use.

🔎How to determine if your child needs counseling and what questions to ask.

đź‘€Why good kids get pulled into porn and how to help them break free.

🗝️7 practical steps to overcome a compulsive porn habit.

🙋Tips for overcoming pornography: Advice from a teen who successfully overcame a porn addiction.

🆚The crucial differences between healthy sex vs. porn sex to teach your kid.

🔤How to turn bad habits into good ones using behavioral science ABC’s.

Your child needs you

Not just to block content, but to help them process their emotions, rebuild trust, and create a plan to move forward.

And if your child hasn’t seen pornography yet, this guide will help you be prepared—so you know what to do before the moment arrives.

A small investment today can pay big dividends for your child’s future, tomorrow.

Let’s do this together.

Kindly,

Kristen

P.S. The most important thing your child needs right now is to know you’re a safe place. No matter what has happened, your connection with them matters most.

What I've been up to...

  • Being a guest on the NextTalk podcast with Mandy Majors! We chatted about ways to gain trust with our kids in order to build that all important internal filter. Listen here and thank me later! ;-)
  • Recording an episode with Shannon Leyko of the Paring Down Podcast. I’ll let you know when it drops!
  • Debriefing the amazing beta-readers for my upcoming Good Pictures Bad Pictures for Girls book. I learn so much from them and I could never write a book without the thoughtful feedback of parents on the front lines.

*Important note: Canopy is designed to filter sites in a web browser, not apps. However, you can use Canopy to block apps and direct your child to use the browser version instead—where Canopy can do its thing. Use code DYM30 when registering at Canopy.us, not in an app store. Promotion ends March 31st.

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