Hello Reader,

The scariest digital dangers aren't always the ones you can see.

From disappearing messages to secret accounts and gaming chats, children have more ways to communicate online than ever before.

While many interactions are harmless, some can expose children to cyberbullying, online predators, scams, and inappropriate content.

Here's what parents should watch for, and how to help keep kids safer when they're online.

🫥 1. Disappearing Messages & Secret Accounts

Some apps allow messages to vanish, while private or secondary accounts can hide conversations from parents.

Watch for: Secretive online behavior, unfamiliar contacts, or someone asking your child to hide conversations.

🛡️ How to Protect your Child:

• Review apps, accounts, and privacy settings together.
• Discuss why private photos and personal information should never be shared online with someone they don’t know in real life, especially under pressure.
• Remind kids they should always come to you for help in any tricky situation.

🫣 2. Emojis, Slang & Hidden Messages

While some online slang and emojis are harmless, others involve bullying, drugs, or sexual content.

🛡️ How to Protect your Child:

• Ask questions about unfamiliar language without jumping to conclusions.
• Focus on conversation context, not individual emojis.
• Talk openly about peer pressure, online dares, and requests for secrecy.

📱 3. Hidden Device & Account Risks

Unsafe links, suspicious downloads, and excessive app permissions can expose children's information.

🛡️ Quick Family Safety Checklist:

✅ Keep devices and apps updated. Updates fix security weaknesses, correct bugs, and improve protection against online threats. Keeping a device updated means installing the latest operating system updates on phones, tablets, and computers, as well as updating apps. Turn on automatic updates when possible, and restart devices when prompted to finish installing updates.

✅ Use strong, unique passwords and multifactor authentication. Strong passwords help prevent others from accessing your child's accounts, while multifactor authentication adds another layer of protection if a password is stolen. (See last week's email for a refresher on strong passwords!)

✅ Review app permissions, location sharing, and privacy settings. Some apps may access a device's camera, microphone, contacts, photos, or location. Review these settings to limit unnecessary access and reduce the risk of exposing your child's personal information.

✅ Set age-appropriate parental controls for content, downloads, purchases, and communication. Parental controls can help limit inappropriate content, restrict downloads and purchases, manage screen time, and control who can contact your child. These tools provide an extra layer of protection–but they work best alongside open conversations about online safety.

✅ Teach kids to recognize suspicious links and report uncomfortable interactions. Unexpected links or phishing from what looks like a trusted source, fake giveaways, and messages asking for personal information may be attempts to steal information or compromise an account. Teach kids to question any link sent to them in a text or email before clicking on it. Remind them to tell a trusted adult if someone online makes them uncomfortable, pressures them, or asks them to keep secrets.

🚨 Warning Signs Parents Shouldn't Ignore

Pay attention to:

• sudden distress after device use,
• secretive relationships with strangers,
• unexplained gifts,
• online threats, or
• pressure to share intimate images.

These signs deserve a calm conversation and then regular chats.

If exploitation or threats are suspected, preserve relevant evidence when safe, report the account, and seek help from appropriate authorities. Read How Kids Are Actually Trafficked in Their Own Bedroom, for more information.

Never download or forward sexual images of minors.

❤️ The Best Protection is Trust

Technology safeguards help, but children must feel safe asking for help.

Ask your child:

• Has anyone online made you uncomfortable? (Teach kids to trust their gut feelings.)
• Has anyone asked you to keep a conversation secret? (Red flag!)
• Do you know how to block or report someone? (Important digital skill.)

Listen with compassion and curiosity. Children who fear punishment may hide situations when they need the most help.

👉Remember: Our goal isn't to scare kids away from technology. It's to help them use it safely, recognize warning signs, and know they can always turn to a trusted adult.

📣 Parents, We Want to Hear From You!

Have you or your child ever encountered hidden online dangers, unexpected messages, suspicious accounts, or unfamiliar online slang?

We'd love to hear your story!

Share any tips, warning signs, or lessons you've learned along the way, and we may include it anonymously in a future blog post. Together, we can help parents feel more prepared to navigate the ever-changing digital world.

Warmly,

Kristen

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