⚠️The DeMay family’s tragic story: How sextortion took their son’s life through suicide


Hello Reader,

Imagine discovering your child has been targeted by a sextortion scam— their compromising images held ransom by a relentless predator.

They feel desperate–trapped and powerless to stop the bombardment of ruthless threats and demands for money.

For the DeMay family, this real-life nightmare unfolded one night, tragically resulting in their son Jordan’s death by suicide.

I wish it weren’t true, but Jordan’s story is one of many.

I know this is a heavy topic, but September is National Suicide Prevention Month, and we want to shine a spotlight on a disturbing trend that is contributing to teen suicide.

In today’s article, Sextortion Scams and Teen Suicide: One Father's Urgent Warning, we share John DeMay’s heartfelt message to parents after the tragic loss of his star athlete son, Jordan.

We also share insights from expert intel analyst Paul Raffile, who explains how these predators operate.

This must-read piece reveals:

  • How sextortion scams target kids and teens— some as young as 9!
  • The relentless, vicious messages victims endure
  • The staggering rise in teen suicides connected to sextortion (you’ll be shocked by the increase)
  • The new role AI plays in these scams
  • 10 actionable tips to keep your kids safer from sextortion
  • Essential steps victims can take if they’re being targeted

John also shares heartfelt advice on

  • setting boundaries,
  • fostering open communication, and
  • using parental controls to protect your kids from these dangers.

Arm yourself today with the knowledge and tools to protect your child from these despicable and deadly scams.

Kindly,

Kristen

P.S. Protecting kids from sextortion starts with teaching them how to reject pornography — which is often where these predators begin their manipulation. Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids is a powerful tool to guide you in these crucial conversations with your child. This Amazon bestseller has been helping families for over ten years.

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"Parents: your child is not too young for this book! Kids these days are exposed to so much more at very young ages, compared to our generation. YES, YOUR KID is included in that. It’s important to start the conversation with them before someone else exposes them to explicit material or concepts. Once a child sees or hear something they shouldn’t it can traumatize them, and cause them to freeze up. You will want them to know what it is and have a plan to run from and it to come straight to you first.”

P.P.S. Discover what the new iOS 18 updates mean for kids' safety! Our Content Editor, Julie Groff, sat down with Titania Jordan, CMO of Bark Technologies, to break down the latest features. Find out which ones benefit your child—and which ones put them at risk. Watch it HERE.

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